Monthly Archives: May 2014

Parenting – The Hardest Job


 

Let’s face it and be real here.  Parenting is not easy.  In fact, it is the hardest job we will ever have.  No one gives us an instruction manual when our children are born. Fact is, they can’t because there isn’t one. Each child is different and each scenario with each child within each family is unique.  Good parenting is also not “instant” and “without failure”.  We don’t know what we don’t know.  We must get “on the job training” for this position that is ongoing and often “on the fly”.  Truthfully, we will  faulter and miss the mark just like we will find we stumble into a what or a how that is good and works….A LOT.

Yes, there are basic principles and guidelines but all in all,  parenting is a whole heap of winging it as we wade through the new and never before experiences to learn how to parent and train our children in the way they should go. We are maturing, learning and growing right along with our kids. I’m not going to lie to you. There are cloudy days, windy days and even stormy days.  But there are also days full of sunshine when the sailing is easy.  Those tend to be far more and much brighter than you may think while in the midst of the cloudy, windy or stormy days.

Sometimes, parenting will mean we will have to make hard choices. Choices that our heart and mind does not easily embrace,  but are necessary for the good of our child, our family, ourselves and the future.  And then sometimes, it’s a breeze with no confusion as we ease through one situation to another.  Every day brings us moments of “I have never been here before.” with us not knowing what to do or say or how to act and react. That’s okay.  It’s all part of the process of learning to parent and our children learning from us.  We have to give ourselves and our children grace in the process of learning.

I must also say, contrary to what some may believe, parenting doesn’t really stop when our kids reach 18 years old or graduate from school.  It is a lifetime position that we take on from the very first.  We still “parent” our kids ling after the wonder and wander years subside.  Our position and job description changes a bit as the hands-on guidance, instruction and leadership decreases to a lesser degree as they step up and into their own just like we did.  That is the goal, right? To prepare them for adulthood,  training and raising them to be an asset to their world and step into their own identity and splendor? That’s how I see it anyways.  Truthfully, our children never stop needing us and looking to us for an example.  It all just changes in how it looks and how we all go about it. Our role of “parent” shifts from authority to assistant.  And here again, we have to give ourselves and our children grace in the shift.

When we know better....

So moms and dads, let me encourage you to stand in the knowledge and understanding that as you grow and learn to parent well, you are not alone and without help or hope.  There are solutions and places you can turn to when in need of more to go farther.  There is help in times of trouble and sources of encouragement in times of discouragement.

We need wisdom to impart wisdom. Wise counsel can be found in friends and others who are like-minded with compatible values and beliefs. So many in our small part of the world may have been there, done that and are on the other side of the lesson in similar circumstances. This is a great avenue for insight, workable solutions and encouragement if we are willing to lay down our pride and fears, share our hearts and situations honestly.  Just being real and vulnerable, asking for advice, help and inspiration can be a solution all on its own.

Without a doubt, wisdom and revelation can be obtained through prayer and most certainly through the word of God.  In fact, I personally think these are the sources where all wisdom comes from, even when it comes to us from a vessel with skin on.  The word of God is the closest thing to an instruction manual we will ever find for parenting and for living. If you need an answer to a question or a solution to a problem, it is in His word…somewhere.  If you just need encouragement, you’ll find that in the pages too.

One of my favorite quotes (shown above) is by the greatly admired Maya Angelou. She said, “When you know better, you do better.”  Isn’t that where we all are and what we are all doing? Yes, I think so.  I think we are all reaching for the “know better” so we can “do better”. …with parenting and with life in general.

Until next time….enjoy your at home world!
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“360 Degrees of Grief, Reflections of Hope” Is Now Available


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The Release

It’s finally here! I cannot begin to tell you how excited I am to share with you the long anticipated release of  “360 Degrees of Grief, Reflections of Hope”, Volume 1.  This the first in a series of anthology books called 360 Degrees coming from Selah Press and managing editor, Kayla Fioravanti , out of Franklin, Tennessee. 

 

“I’m humbled to be able to share my story with the readers of 360 Degrees of Grief. In my honest opinion, this is by far, one of the most real and hope filled books that one can read.” – Ginger L. Moore

 

I am very honored to be a contributing author, standing among  truly amazing and inspiring people of faith. The list of 64 authors come from many walks of life and include theologians and pastors, like Bruce Fong, dean at Dallas Theological Seminary, and Tom Burgess, executive director of Global Missions International; Christian recording artists like Steve Green,  Wayne Watson, Melodie Tunney and Clay Crosse; entrepreneurs like Bethany Learn, founder and CEO of Fit2B Studio  and Joyce Bone,co-founder of the environmental service company, EarthCare. There are established authors such as Mary Humphrey  and of course Kayla Fioravanti, in addition to educators, performing artists, ministry leaders, life coaches and housewives. Through a myriad of circumstances, the writers open up to share with the reader their first-person accounts of personal, often life changing experiences with grief and the deep heartfelt emotions involved on the way to hope and healing.  

 
Ask and you will receive – Contributing to Hope and Healing

Kayla is a friend, former industry colleague and sister in Christ whom I dearly adore.  When she contacted me to ask if I would consider contributing a story to her new book project about grief, I was a little reluctant. OK…I was a lot reluctant.  In fact, I did everything to avoid writing a submission even though I felt the Holy Spirit repeatedly guiding me to do just that.  I made every excuse you can imagine.  Yes, it was a little intimidating to think about being published but mostly, I didn’t want to share what I was feeling deeply compelled to share.  It was so very personal and I was not the only player in the story, all of whom I didn’t want to hurt. I did NOT want to put it all in writing and definitely not in a very public and forever out there medium like a book that would be available in hard copy and digital formats.  Gasp!  I just couldn’t!  Could I? 

So I ran from it as fast as my short legs could carry me for weeks.  I even went so far as to volunteer when Kayla  crowd-sourced for editing team members.  Whew!  I thought to myself…”OK, that will be my contribution to this project INSTEAD of a written story of my own experiences with grief.”  But the Lord would not let me off the hook that easily. As I began receiving submissions to proofread and edit, the prompting to submit my own story became even more urgent and undeniable.  I finally surrendered and put the experience that I was being led to write on paper, submitting it for review to be included in 360 Degrees of Grief.   I must admit, I walked through more healing and restoration as I typed out the words through tears. Yeah, I think God knew that there was more hiding way down deep within me than I had recognized to that point.  He is so good like that!  My contribution was accepted and now you can find my story of deep healing, “A Garden Full of Grief”, on page 149 of this truly anointed compilation of stories.  While my story is not about the loss of a loved one, it is about grief that comes from a different kind of loss, actually a lack that became a deep loss. I pray that it will touch the recesses of each reader and help bring healing and hope to many. 


Signed, Sealed and Delivered

As a contributing author, I’m happy to announce that I am offering “360 Degrees of Grief” for purchase to my community.  I would be blessed and greatly honored to send you a copy of this inspirational work of love, which I will gladly sign for you.  The price for your own copy is $14.00 plus shipping.  If you would like to order a signed copy directly from me, please feel free to contact me through my ministry email address. Just send me an email with how many you would like to order and a PayPal email address so I can send you an invoice to athomewoman@live.com  .  I’ll then ship your paperback hard copy directly to your mailing address.  Or if you prefer, you can connect with me on the At Home Woman Facebook page and talk directly to me about ordering.  I had other plans to make the book available to you for purchase but I have had a few computer problems of late which has prevented me from being able to list the book on the Facebook page shop tab or my website for direct purchase.  So for right now, this is the avenue for purchasing directly from me.

The book is also available for purchase on Amazon if you prefer the Kindle version.  Oh…I almost forgot.  If Nook is you preferred e-reader,  the Nook version  is also available through Barnes and Noble. 

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